This is a post that has been on my mind for quite sometime. When I started blogging again before J.W. passed, I thought I might share my thoughts but didn’t. Obviously the time was not right. I shared a bit after he passed about lightening the load of “stuff” that one accumulates. I believe now is the right time as hubby and I look to “rid” ourselves of what is not important to hold onto.
My son had 2 bags that went everywhere with him. This was the most important bag.
He called it “his life in a bag”. Inside was a small laptop, cards he had received over the years, his ID, insurance cards, wallet, toothbrush and paste, old passports, photos, phone, keys…you get the idea. Everything of true value to him was in this bag. The other bag contained an “old school” playstation and some favorite games.
Seriously, these bags went everywhere and I can tell you that this bag was heavy! The lock alone is heavy!
His doctors would laugh when we came walking in with the bags. A few years ago some of his things were stolen and from that point on we rolled with the bags. I am so glad we did.
I have learned so much from these bags and they have prepared me for the “next chapter”.
Since I make and sell things, (and I enjoy my business) it feels kind of strange to actually ask “is it really necessary”? Most husbands would be hugging me now and singing praises. (Not that women are the ONLY ones who tend to accumulate stuff). I have way too much “stuff” and you can’t take it with you.
The donation process is ongoing and eventually I will probably have some sort of sale.
Who needs 10 services for 12? O.K, maybe some people do and that is fine, That is just not what our life is about now.
Since we have been discussing “getting out of Dodge” eventually, we know that only the important items will come with us. Photo’s, letters, heirlooms, kid memorabilia, some favorite pieces of clothing (whether they are something I would wear again or not- see, I still have some sense!). You know J.W’s bags will move with us. Obviously, the computers, cameras but not that much more. As I type this, it is kind of shocking but totally liberating.
I think J.W. had his priorities straight and I am very thankful that he can still teach me something.
Have a great week friends!
Always big hugs,
Barb
Well done Barb! It's not easy downsizing, but worth it when you do.
I think so Elizabeth, I think so!
hugs and love to you and your hubby.
xoxo
Difficult times are often times for evaluating what's really important. It's never easy. You are being so brave.
Hi Lorrie,
Difficult times do give us the opportunity to evaluate what is truly important. I totally agree!
Thank you but I'm not really brave. I cry pretty much daily. Yesterday was the first day I went without crying at all! I know the tears bring me one step closer to healing a bit although the huge hole will never be filled. J.W. was the brave one. I miss him to pieces.
xoxo
I have been thinking along these same lines! I have WAY too much stuff too! Let's get together and help each other:) Have a blessed day dear Barb, BIG HUGS as you remember your J.W!
Now, that would be fun Theresa! An EPIC yard sale. We'd make the news.
Thank you for the hugs. Dreading Mother's day…
xoxo
I just wanted to say thank you for reading this post. I was amazed when I logged in and saw the number of pageviews. J.W. would be very pleased and shocked. We both (hubby) thank you!